Tackling One of My Biggest Flaws – Flexibility

It’s time to jump back into reality after a fun and exciting Thanksgiving holiday. Today is the day many people go back to work or start preparing for finals week, also known as the worst week of the semester! Before we dive into the hectic days that lie before us, I want to share something with you all that I struggle with every day, and that is being flexible.

Anyone that knows me can tell you that I’m a planner. Every day, I have my tasks scheduled out, I accomplish what I have planned, and I do it very well. What they can also tell you is that I’m terrible at handling situations that don’t fall into this routine. Just one random meeting or extra errand can really throw me off. I quickly find myself panicking and stressed for the rest of the day. Not only this, but I can get down on myself. A whole week of this will even cause me to lock myself in my room over the weekend because I need to de-stress. Sounds a little excessive, right?

While this does not happen as much anymore, it is still something I struggle with and fought over the Thanksgiving holiday. I was in a house full of 16 other people. Sixteen people that each had something they wanted to do. There was no way I was going to be able to schedule out my days. Who knew what would come up? So, I was forced to be flexible all week…and to tell you the truth, it felt amazing. One of the biggest issues with being a planner is I don’t get to experience new things. I have a routine, it works for me, and I stick to it. But this causes me to miss out on the other things life has to offer. By being more flexible over the holiday, I found myself going to places I wouldn’t usually go to or even eating foods that I normally wouldn’t eat. I saw the other things life has to offer, and I loved it. I loved the new feelings and situations I found myself in. It was liberating!

So, how did I go about changing my ways in a matter of days? Immediately in the morning, I got in the right mindset. Not only did I accept that I needed to be flexible, I reminded myself what was truly important in life…spending time with the ones that I love. If that meant I had to sacrifice one moment of my day, then so be it. It was worth it. I can honestly say that I did no homework for 5 days, and it felt amazing. Am I feeling the pain of it right now? Absolutely, but I know I will get it done anyway. Accepting that life will not always go as planned and that it is okay worked wonders for me this week.

If you find it difficult to get in the right mindset, try the Release Tension, Set Intention method. I came across it in my current morning read High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard. The way it works is as follows…

  1. When you are transitioning into a new activity, close your eyes for a minute or two.
  2. Repeat the word release to yourself over and over again. As you do this, feel the tension release from your shoulders. Release the tension from your jaw, your face, and your hands. As you do so, take a few deep breaths.
  3. Once you feel relaxed, set your intention. Tell yourself how you want to feel in the situation you are about to enter. Remind yourself of your goals.
  4. Embrace the new situation!

I don’t want to make it seem like I’m a spontaneous and carefree person now, but I am working on my flexibility. I will always have a schedule. As a matter of fact, the first thing I did when I got back to Tampa was make my schedule, but I made sure to leave some extra room so I can enjoy what life has to offer. At the end of the day, I want to look back on my life and have a sea of memories. I know many of you feel the same way, and I think its time we do this together.

Be sure to like and share this post if this is something you want to work on with me!

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