Let me just start out by saying THANK YOU!! Thank you so much for the overwhelmingly positive responses you all gave me on my last post. It meant a lot to me to have that many views (the most I’ve ever gotten!), but the most gratifying part was receiving texts and messages from readers telling me how impactful the message was. So again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. If you didn’t get a chance to read it, you can do so here.
Today’s post is a little bit more reflective, but I hope the message resonates with you all the same. My one request is for you to take the time to complete the quick activity it asks of you …you’ll be amazed how beneficial it is.
When was the last time you took a step back to really examine your life? Maybe it was a long time ago or maybe you never have. Unfortunately for many, the first time they take a moment to do this is during their last minutes here on earth. It’s so easy to get caught up in thinking about the present and future, but we can learn so much from our past. Calling it to mind forces us to think about everything we’ve ever done, every situation we’ve faced, and every action we’ve taken. We may laugh at many memories, but I guarantee that a serious examination will reveal many “I wish I would haves”.
In my current daily read, Resisting Happiness, Mathew Kelly speaks about the many ways we resist happiness in our lives. One of the chapters, “Get Busy Living”, has “I wish I would have” quotes from people during their final moments, which are extremely thought provoking. Here are a few…
- I wish I’d had the courage to just be myself.
- I wish I had made spirituality more of a priority.
- I wish I had taken more risks.
- I wish I had taken better care of myself.
- I wish I had touched more lives.
- I wish I had pursued more of my dreams.
- I wish I had lived more in the moment.
- I wish I had realized earlier that happiness is a choice.
What a reality check, right? I didn’t share these with you to make you upset, but rather to get you thinking because we can learn from them. Take a moment right now to write down three of your “I wish I would haves”. Here are my three:
- I wish I had been more adventurous by stepping outside of my comfort zone more often.
- I wish I had realized that creating memories is more important than eating healthy or going to the gym.
- I wish I had taken the time to love God, my family, my friends, and the world more.
I’d like to think that every new year is an opportunity for us to enhance our lives, grow in new ways, and get one step closer to becoming the best version of ourselves. These three “I wish I would haves” are what I’m using to live 2018 to the fullest. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to look back on my life and have a bunch of “what ifs”. I want to smile and be satisfied 🙂
So just remember that reflecting isn’t just an activity to do in religion class. Take some time every once in a while and look back. If you made mistakes, that’s okay. Learn from them. If you had successes, what made those successes happen? Emulate them. Most importantly, choose happiness, be yourself, and make the most of it. Let today be the beginning of your new chapter!