Yesterday was the last day of final exams, and as of today, I’m finally a senior! It’s crazy to think that I only have one year left at USF. The past three have been a roller coaster for sure, but I wouldn’t change them for the world. I’ve grown so much since my freshman year although I still look the same haha. But in all humbleness, I think I’ve matured a lot, and that’s something I’m very proud of. I’m happy to say that I’m enjoying where I am in life even though I’m a little stressed and burnt out. But I only have one more year, and I want to make it the best one yet.
With all of that said, the majority of my close friends are graduating this year. Some are staying local, others are going a few hours away, and some are going abroad. It’s going to be weird without them, so I can’t help but think that maybe I should have graduated a year early with them. After all, I could have…
But when I think about it, had I graduated this year, I’d most likely be attending dietetics school even though that’s not where my heart lies. And even if I still had the same realization this spring that I wanted to go into psychology, I’d be graduating with a degree that wouldn’t let me go into that field. So most likely, I’d be waiting another year to go to graduate school anyway.
You see, our lives have a way of working themselves out. So often do we get caught up in comparing our lives to those of others that we lose sight of how lucky we are. Yes, my friends are graduating and I’m not, but I’m going to be doing something I love in the future. In my opinion, that’s worth taking the whole four years.
In anthropology, there’s this term called cultural relativism, which basically means looking at a culture relative to that culture’s context so that one can fully understand that culture for what it is. For example, some people think it’s weird that Hispanic families are very physical with each other, but when you realize that is how they express love, it makes more sense.
I think we can apply the essence of that term to our lives. Instead of looking at everyone else’s lives and directly comparing them to ours, we should remember that they have their own journey and so do we. Even if two people have the same destination in mind, each person is going to get there a different way, and isn’t that the point? It’s the little nuances that make us unique as well as make us who we are.
Do you know what else is funny? The moment we start focusing on ourselves instead of others is the moment we start to progress. Think about all the time and energy we spend looking at those we admire or are jealous of. Even if it only adds up to a few minutes a day, that’s a few more minutes we could have spent on the treadmill or reading an extra couple of pages in a self-help book. It’s a few more minutes we could have spent with our family.
There’s nothing wrong with using someone else’s life or achievements as inspiration, but we can’t get so caught up in emulating them that we forget everything is relative. We need to love ourselves. We need to love where we are at in life, even if it’s good or bad because either way it is serving a purpose. Most of all, we need to love our lives not the idea of someone else’s.
As a final thought, I want to share one more thing…I got a card in the mail from my mom on Monday. Inside were some Starbucks and Publix gift cards for finals week fuel, but there was also a little card with a beautiful quote. It read…
“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It’s your masterpiece after all.”
~ Nathan W. Morris
Don’t let your life be governed by others. Take charge and make it your own. Don’t be afraid to take chances and make changes. Don’t be afraid to go against the advice of others. This is your life. Own it!
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