Addressing Negative Experiences

Happy Memorial Day! Today, we remember those who lost their lives defending this great nation. We also thank those who have served and currently serve as well as their families. It’s through all of your sacrifices that people like me can live free.

I also want to say thank you to my readers! The support and engagement on my last post was outstanding, and it means the world to me to see you all interacting not only with me, but with other readers as well 🙂

Today, I want to talk about negativity and delve into those times in our lives that really sucked. The times when it felt like nothing was going right and when the world seemed to be crashing down. Take a moment to bring to mind one of those situations.

In one way or another, we’ve all experienced a difficult time. We’ve all known what it’s like to feel like we’re carrying the weight of the world. Chances are we view them as negative experiences, and rightly so. But I want to offer up a new outlook…

Negative experiences are a call to action. 

Personally, I’m a believer in the mantra that everything happens for a reason, especially bad things. Call it a coping mechanism or whatever you’d like, but it’s something that’s changed the way I look at life. When I started approaching negative experiences as events that were destined to happen, it made going through them easier. I found myself actually looking for the diamond in the rough rather than dwelling on the lost diamond. Sometimes it was easier to find than others, but regardless, it was always there.

I think this line takes that mantra a step further and is something we can all benefit from. Looking at hardship as a call to action puts the cards in our favor. It lets us take control of our lives again. It gives us freedom and helps us learn. It gives us next steps, which often times are exactly what we need when we are going through some stuff. I know that I often find myself unsure of what to do next.

I always use this example, but it’s something that I struggle with every day, especially as graduation looms closer. Until last fall, I had everything planned out. I had a full ride to dietetics school, the perfect job, the sought after research position, and even started this blog. Life seemed perfect. But then this blog made me realize that I’m more passionate about mental health than nutrition, and my plans went up in flames. I gave up those positive experiences to chase what I love.

However, I’m still struggling with how I want to take that passion and apply it to my life. I’ve spent countless nights staring at the ceiling wondering what to do. I don’t know how many times I’ve teared up at church begging God to lead me somewhere. But in all this struggle, I’m sure of one thing: God is calling me to bring light to those in darkness. Do I know how yet? Nope. But that’s allowing me to explore numerous paths and figure out exactly what my purpose is. It’s calling me to explore and take charge of my life.

I know my example might not seem that trying to most, but it’s hard for me. We all have our weaknesses.

Maybe your negative experience was losing your job. That could be your call to chase what you’re truly passionate about. Maybe you lost a loved one in a tragedy. Maybe that’s your call to start a charity in their name or donate money to a certain cause (Mother’s Against Drunk Driving, Alzheimer’s Association, the American Heart Association, etc.). You lost your home, which could mean that it’s time to find somewhere better to live. It could be a call to find a job in your dream city. You got into a serious car accident. It could be a wakeup call to appreciate your life. The list goes on and on.

I challenge you to think about the moment that came to mind earlier. Uncover what you’ve buried and dig through it. Find that diamond in the rough. Figure out that call to action. What can you do to respond to that call? Whose help might you need, and what will it take? Ask yourself those questions and more. You know what to do and what to ask, so do it. Take charge of your life.

“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~ Dr. Seuss

I hope this post resonated with you and put you in the mindset to be the captain of your life. I’d love to hear some comments below! As always, thank you for reading and don’t forget to like and share. You’re the best!

If I can be of any help to you, message me. Email me. Call me. Text me. I’m here for you…talk to you on Friday 🙂

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